By Jade's Desire
Why do women clench their pearls when it comes to the conversation about sex? Why do they shy away from the topic? Sex is very natural; it is very, very sexy, especially when handled with care. And yet, for some strange reason, women are very uncomfortable with letting their spouses know that they are not completely happy nor satisfied in the bedroom. Why? Hmm . . .
Some women may not know how to explain to their spouses because they don't know where their g-spot is, nor how to get to it. I have also found that a lot of women are afraid to say anything for fear of judgment from their spouses.
There are a lot of women who did not get the proper education when it came to sex as they were growing up because back in the day, women didn't talk about sex; it was a taboo topic, not to be discussed.
Sexual experiences vary from person to person, be it male or female. Everyone's experience is different based on when they started having sex or experimenting with sex.
Ladies, come on! Don't be uncomfortable telling your other half/spouse/significant other what you like and what you don't like. If you really, truly don't know where your g-spot is or how to get to it, take a mirror, spread eagle, and take a look.
Play with yourself, get to know your clit, vulva, and g-spot. Find out what pleasures you just by using two fingers. You're exploring your body—it's yours, so do with it as you please.
Literally, PLEASE YOURSELF.
How can you tell someone how to please you if you don't know? Then you're having sex just to be having sex and not getting the ultimate goal, which is the release. CLIMAX, ORGASM, SQUIRT.
For homework, you have 30 days to do what I call my "Restaurant Test." Meaning going to a restaurant and, instead of getting the same thing, trying something different from the menu. The idea is to change your order and start a conversation about it before slowly bringing up the conversation of trying something new sexually.
You start out with an appetizer—you order something new, and so does hunny. Swap out your appetizers and talk about it. YES, talk about the appetizer. Describe it in detail—the flavor, the texture. If the juices run down your fingers, describe what the juices taste like. Look closely, and you'll see it's sexual, and what better way to start a conversation about sex than with juices running down your fingers?
See how that works? Don't be so closed off to having open communication with your sexual pleasures and desires. Every day, try something different. Be open and clear; make sure you are communicating and not just talking. There is a difference.
Be open to what your partner/spouse/significant other is saying, listen with an open mind, take in what is being said without being offended. And keep in mind that everybody's sexual experiences, education, and tastes are different, and one person may have started later than the other.
Knowing that your partner may have "dumb down" their sex life is not a good thing. That craving is still there, that hunger is still there, that desire is still there. Satisfy it. You shouldn't have to suppress your sexual desires and needs; you should be able to let them out and feel fulfilled.
Why should women have to walk around sexually tamed? If you like being spanked, it's okay. Tell your spouse. You never know, he may like spanking, too.
If you like being choked, say something.
If you like being tied up, SCREAM IT TO THE ROOFTOP!
Your spouse may be into all of this, but you will never know because you never said anything.
So, take the 30-day restaurant sex challenge. If you can't get to the restaurant, do it at home with a different meal every night—make it a date night, something light and simple, something you have never eaten. Open that door of communication and sexual exploration.
Trust me, you will thank me later.
