By Jade's Desire
We will be getting into a beginner sexual position, and I will try to keep it simple—not have you using a gag ball and being blindfolded. (We'll save that for next time.) But first, we are going to continue our talk on toys and how much fun they can be . . .
Ladies, don't forget that toys are an ENHANCEMENT and NOT A REPLACEMENT! If you decide to ask your spouse about adding them to your sexual journey, it's important to remember that some people have fragile egos when it comes to this topic. Do not bring your hammer for your first attempt—start out small.
We have already discussed a couple of types of vibrators, but there are so many more to try and play with; you have the beginner's vibrator that we started with, and then there are rotating vibrators that are extremely fun.
The Rabbit is the most popular and common rotating vibrator dildo. It has a tip that spins around, beads in the middle, and massages the clit and vulva. If you want to know how your partner moves while playing with the vibrator, place two fingers inside her and massage her clit. Take the vibrator out and continue to pleasure her with your fingers. Listen to her wetness and moans of passion, and BINGO JACKPOT, it is time for some GOOD OLE FASHION SEX!
Now the fun begins with trying the tips that you have learned during our 30-Day Restaurant Challenge; you should be open to allowing yourself to experience more sexually and try new things.
You have opened the door of communication by introducing toys into the bedroom; it's time to talk positions. Keep in mind that you should start out slow if you are still relatively new to this sexual journey. But, if you want to jump in the deep end, go ahead. Just make sure that your partner is ready for it.
Let's see, something easy and fun . . . Reverse Cowgirl. This is a fun and sexy position that you and your partner will both enjoy and orgasm from. If you do not know what Reverse Cowgirl is, I will explain in detail. Make sure you follow all the steps to ensure maximum satisfaction, meaning an orgasm.
You can start out in Reverse Cowgirl or begin a few different ways—like the missionary position—and end up there. Here's how:
So, we all know how missionary starts, but let me tell you how to end up in a different position. Start by bending your knees like you are getting ready to ride your partner while sitting on top. Here is the fun part, you can turn around while still sitting on him—which is OMG SOOO AMAZING within itself—or you can lift up and turn around.
If you want the pleasure of turning around while he is still inside of you, here's how you try, and I mean try, to do it. I swear I cannot, but maybe you can—I don't want to get up, so as soon as I do, I slide right back down, LOL. You want to raise up on his penis while he is lying down, then slowly turn around, keeping his tip still inside you.
The other way to get into Reverse Cowgirl is to lift yourself up and off, turn around, and sit directly on his penis with your back facing his front and front facing his legs and ankles.
Once you have managed to turn around and you are facing his lower half, you want to bend over and grab his ankles. Put an arch in your back and keep your booty tooted out as you begin to rock back and forth and bounce up and down.
Start out slow and speed up the pace. Let your partner grab you by the waist and hold you down for deeper penetration and better traction. Once you have gotten him in the spot you want him in, keep going. Do not stop until you reach the ULTIMATE GOAL, that ORGASM.
Well, we have now completed our first 30-Day Restaurant Challenge! We've learned how to have those sexual conversations, describe sex using food, introduce toys into the bedroom starting off small, and, of course, the Reverse Cowgirl.
Keep the tips and tricks we've discussed in mind and continue to work on your communication. Without communication, you are right back where you started from.
The next we meet, perhaps I can tell you about how much fun a gag-ball and chain is . . .